Three Strands

Someone might be able to beat up one of you, but not both of you. As the saying goes, “A rope made from three strands of cord is hard to break.” (Ecclesiastes 4:12, CEV)

A metaphor refers to one thing by mentioning another thing. It may provide identify hidden similarities between two ideas. This figure of speech is applied in the above proverb. It communicates strongly to anyone familiar with rope. Rope can be woven from the strength of two strands (which is better than one). Two strands are so easily unraveled that its breakdown is almost automatic.

The simplest answer about the meaning of this proverb is that community and fellowship are God-ordained. A proverb often imparts simple truths with many different applications. The truth of Ecclesiastes 4:12 may apply to relationships in all aspects of our life. Like the strength (of a three strand rope), how can Jesus be weaved into our daily relationships?

1.Talk with others about Him in your relationships together.
“Instead, you must wors…

An Eraser

“Trust is like an eraser. It gets smaller and smaller with every mistake.” (

Are you one of those people that automatically trust everyone immediately? Are you the type that believes people need to earn your trust? What is it exactly that makes us trust another? These are all important questions that only you can answer for yourself. Trust is an integral part of our lives. No one can survive without it. It’s important to seek for it in a healthy manner.
If you’ve been hurt in the past by someone you’ve trusted or you find it hard to trust in general, maybe you need to take a second look at the criteria you use in making your decision. We need to know how to assess others so that we can trust the right person in the right situation.
The foundation for our best guess of trust is our knowledgeof a person we’re dealing with. Whether it’s been twenty years or twenty minutes, we still have to assess what we know about that person, and make the decision to trust them or not. S…

One Day

“We are born in one day. We die in one day. We can change in one day. And we can fall in love in one day. Anything can happen in just one day.” (Gayle Forman, author ofJust One Day)

How do you handle life's impermanence (or passing)? Is it a positive or negative topic to you (as you age)?  We can do well with life’s challenges as long as we are willing to adjust to change, and then move forward.  To adjust to life's impermanence in a healthy way, we must allow ourselves to feel our feelings, get involved with support groups, talk to people, seek therapy, and truly deal with the emotions involved. 
People often deal with life’s impermanence by overly involving themselves in work, becoming addicted to television or the Internet, immediately jumping into another relationship, or eating excessively.  The list of what people do instead of dealing with life's changes in a healthy way is infinite. 
Most of us don't adjust well to life's impermanence (like death).  If we rea…

The Difference

“There's a difference between being yourself and being your stereotype.” (Iggy Azalea)

Stereotyping is defined as holding a fixed belief about others without validity. The habit of stereotyping is not particular to a group, nation or race. Stereotyping is a natural tendency of the human mind to minimize effort and find mental shortcuts to process information and draw quick conclusions.
Over generalization, over simplification, selective perception, irrational beliefs, ignorance, faulty learning, and immaturity are some of the reasons why people tend to use stereotyping. People stereotype from those who are both alike and different from them.

Human beings assume certain personality types are superior or inferior, friendly or hostile, intelligence or ignorant, reliable or unreliable, aggressive or docile. Stereotyping helps the animals in their survival to find their prey and sense their rivals. It helps them to live in communities, hunt in packs, and find better protection from oth…


“Reflect on what I am saying for the Lord will give you understanding in everything.” (2 Timothy 2: 7, NABRE)

Critical thinking is the ability to review claims and make objective judgments on the basis of well-supported information. It is the ability to look for flaws in arguments that have no supporting evidence. Critical thinking fosters the ability to be creative.
It generates explanations for findings, and applies new knowledge to a broad range of social and personal problems. It's only when you question what is that you can begin to imagine what can be. To be a critical thinker, here is what you need to do:
1.Analyze assumptions and biases: All of us are subject to beliefs that prevent us from being impartial. Evaluate your assumptions that lie behind arguments. 

2.Ask questions, and be willing to wonder: Always be on the lookout for questions that have not been answered in the textbooks by the experts in the field or by the media. Be willing to ask questions like: "What…

A Detour

“Failure is a detour not a dead-end street.” (Zig Ziglar)

Failure can be a valuable teacher. Why are we unable to attain the information this educator can provide us to keep from further failing? Figuring out the lessons failure has are no simple errand even when we’re deep in frustration, embarrassment, resentment, and hopelessness.

To learn from failures, a method is needed to decipher the teachable moments hidden inside that can improve chances of future success. The following guidelines will help you identify important goals in dealing with this topic positively.

1.Reevaluate variables within your control: Failure can make us feel passive, helpless, and lead us to believe that we’ll never succeed no matter what we try. These feelings are tricks our minds play on us after experiencing failure.
The truth is that we always have more control over things than we realize. We might feel despondent if we failed to get a promotion because our sales figures did not measure up. We tried harder…

Choosing Sides

Leadership has a harder job to do than just choose sides. It must bring sides together.” (Jesse Jackson)

A leadership style is a way of providing direction, implementing plans, and motivatingpeople. The most appropriate leadership style depends on the function of the leader, the followers, and the situation.Some leaders lack the ability or the desire to assume responsibility.

Others must handle problems that require immediate solutions without consulting upper management. The leader's intellectual capacity helps to imagine solutions to complete the challenge. Below are twelve different leadership styles. Which one do you work best with (or wished you worked with)?
1.Autocratic Leadership This style is centered on the boss. The leader holds all authority, responsibility, and makes decisions by themself without consulting anyone else. They reach decisions, communicate them to subordinates and expect prompt implementation.
In this kind of leadership, guidelines, procedures and policies…