Recently I’ve noticed my adult daughter
has not quite been herself. She does all the things in her life that need to be
done like work, church, being with her human and canine families time, and
quality time with her friends. Her mind seems to be on the drastic change that
will happen in her future in mid- September of 2015.
Allena will be going to Akron, OH, for
six months of discipleship training at YWAM (Youth with a Mission). This
interlude in her young life will have several purposes. First, she will go on a
mission’s trip to Haiti. (She went to Costa Rica with the youth group in 2014.)
Second, I hope Allena will figure out
her identity as a Christian. (How does Jesus see her?) Third, her mother and I
have unsuccessfully been able to help our daughter identify a career path. Her
direction in life is floundering since she left studying Criminology at a local
college.
It will all be a big change for her
(dorm living in an old house), us, her parents (since we’ve never lived for a
long period away from her), and her dog, Rosco, that worships her (with some
fear). Though her mother knows this is the right step in her life, I’m letting
go with a bit of trepidation.
Bobbi and I will be semi-empty nesters.
I’ve known Allena all her life. I wonder how her brash behavior will transition
into a rather conservative environment. When my daughter returns after 6 months
will the personality of the young woman I cherish be there, or have morphed
into something unrecognizable?
When I graduated from college in 1986,
I thought my career was set and my spirituality was secure. Life changes who
you are as it should. If Allena comes back similar to what she was when she
left, I don’t want her hopes to be crushed.
I’m starting to believe the phrase
“Once a parent; always a parent.” My daughter has a piece of my heart. She
always will. Like any parent, I want better for her than I had. If you are a
mom or dad, would you agree?