On the Move

Author, actress, and Christian comedian, Chonda Pierce, is affectionately nicknamed the “Queen of Clean.” Her family life; being the daughter of a “wooden-pews, hell-fire” pastor (from the South); and her battle with agoraphobia (abnormal fear of open spaces); all play into her very unique brand of humor.

Chonda says this about her own exclusive style of comedy. “You learn a lot from your past-what to weed through and throw out, and what to hold on to forever.”

Both her live shows and her DVD’s (like Be Afraid, Be Very Afraid; I’m Kind of a Big Deal; and Four-Eyed Blonde) combine lots of giggles with unexpected thought-provoking spiritual wisdom. Here is an insight by Funny Lady, Chonda Pierce:

“Sometimes God closes doors because it’s time to [progress] forward. He knows you won’t move unless your circumstances force you. Trust the transition. God’s got you!!!”

Very few people care for change. It often confuses the brain by being both painful (and eventually rewarding). When God orchestrates this aspect of your life, you can definitely be assured that an original masterpiece is in the making.

Transition can be either an immediate (or a step-by-step) process. Whichever is chosen by ( or for) you; be honest with the Heavenly Father about your feelings (good or bad) on this life journey.

Nothing is too difficult for the Almighty. He specializes in the impossible. God knows it is easier to stay in an apathetic state of mind in what’s familiar rather than to venture out into the risk of the unknown. At times you may doubt about the path you’ve chosen (and what will be the results at the end of your road).

It’s then time to be absolutely still, and listen to the calm voice of a loving Heavenly Father giving you further marching orders. Don’t be afraid because divine wisdom is on the way (if you ask for it).

It’s not always possible to be in control of everything in your life. In transition, regular routines get broken for unchartered territory.

Although an aged Moses gave this charge to the new leader Joshua long ago, Deuteronomy 31:6 (MSG) is more applicable today (in the aspect of decision making) in our modern, fast-paced, world than ever before.

“Be strong. Take courage. Don’t be intimidated. Don’t give [it] a second thought because…your God is striding ahead of you. He’s right there with you. He won’t let you down… [or] leave you.” Fear can often be paralyzing. It can keep us in a mental fog (where we are unable to proceed ahead). It can also mess with both our eating and sleeping routines.

Just like the bickering Children of Israel, a negative attitude (and complaining about it) will only make the process of transition worse. Ask God to show you the positive things in this time of valuable refining of your character.

Though your Divine Provider is strong and courageous (He wants the same for you), other people’s transitions may have a direct affect on your sense of security.

Could it be this transition test will provide the patience the Almighty wants to incorporate into your life (James 1:3)? God is good all the time, and He lives inside you. Be aware of His plans for what lies ahead in your future (Jeremiah 29:11).

*Inspired from the sermon “Transitions,” by Pastor Charlene Markarian (Interim Pastor/Church Member), January 31, 2016, Eastside Community Church, Gahanna, OH

Chonda is my all-time favorite Christian comedian. Her videos are wonderful.

Warning: Danger Ahead

In the post Golden Apples, you learned old age is inevitable for many people (on planet Earth). To make the most of those “golden” years, courage (and determination) is needed to be the best version of you possible.

When children turn into adults and their role switches from subservient offspring to close, concerned friend, this question could arise: “How can I take care of both my parents (or just one) when they need me the most (as I needed them as a young child)?”

Matthew 15:4 (MSG) gives this serious warning to adult children. “God clearly says, ‘Respect your father and mother…’ Anyone [rejecting] father or mother should [die].’” This verse is the New Testament version of Moses’ law (from God for Israel) called, “The Ten Commandments.”

 Exodus 20:12 (MSG) directs “Honor your father and mother so that you’ll live a long time… [that] God is giving you.” As you can see, the Almighty takes this parental respect mandate seriously. Once you are an adult; I feel you are no longer under your parent’s rule to do everything that is asked of you. (You have the ability to say, “no.”) 

As long as you are living (no matter how bad you’re parents might have been), biblically (out of respect) it is your duty (for you or you and your siblings) to take care of them in both life (and death).

Take a moment and read Ecclesiastes 12:1-5 in some modern- day translation (or version). It describes some of aspects that can be involved in the world of a senior citizen. There can be poor stamina (strength), blurry vision (without glasses), inconsistent body temperature (constantly cold), joints stiffen (pain) and walking hurts, weak handshake (or grip), insomnia (getting or staying asleep), immobility (and instability), gray (or salt and pepper) hair, and too thin (from lack of appetite).

The Golden Rule (given in Matthew 7:12 of The Message) is a need for everyone. “Here is a simple rule-by-rule thumb guide for behavior:  Ask yourself what you want people to do for you, then grab the [idea] and do it for [others]…”

One day the circle (progression or karma) of life may come back around to you. You may be the receiver of someone else’s care in both life (and your funeral). When that time comes, how do you wish things to go? What do you need to do differently now?

Texting Goodness

Nothing warms the heart of a writer more than having one of his readers communicate to him (or her) just what a profound effect their words have had on the receiver’s life.

I simply adore Psalms 119:103 (MSG) “Your words are so choice, so tasty; I prefer them to the best home cooking.” This verse is extremely applicable to your cell phone. Is what your texting to others deliciously seasoned with a blessing (or something better left unsaid).

My own personal example of this involves my former youth director, Roger Miracle, when I was a teenager at the church I grew up in, Fellowship Baptist in Columbus, OH. The two of reconnected a couple years ago after losing touch for many years.

Roger Miracle lives with his wife Kim in Chickamauga, GA. He is a member of my Encourage Me blog group. Like the other individuals in this specific Facebook family, he finds my opinion worth his reading time. (That just amazes me.) My former youth pastor continues to be a major influence in my life as he was when I was a teenager. (Roger is good with reality checks.)

Roger often gives me humorous, helpful critiques on what he enjoys about some of my various posts (as he feels lead). His summary of text sentiments went something like this, “Your blog is really getting good, concise, relevant, and interesting…It is biblical, but you don’t beat people over the head with it. That is a tough beam to balance on… I am praying for you daily”

Here is how I responded to that. “This is [the job God] lead me to do [in December 2014]. I think more change happens with love and concern than guilt. Only God can bring true [transformation]. I wish to be an agent of true [helpful] change…Thanks for always being so encouraging when it comes to my writing.”

In today’s modern world, very few people have the opportunity to bless others (or encourage) all the time. With all the responsibilities people have today that is absolutely not practical.

Here is what you can do. If you know of someone is having a rough day (for whatever the reason), try to get an encouraging message (or small act of kindness) to them (Colossians 4:6).

It’s not possible to reach everyone (that needs the unique talents God has given you), but it is possible to make a difference in the existence of a chosen few. Best of luck with your newest mission from the Almighty.

Faithful (or Faithless)

Like many people, faith is a difficult concept for me to get a grasp on. It is not solid evidence for my unbelief. It does not have parameters that can be successfully measured by human intervention. Faith is a process that runs completely outside of my rational mind. It is in the God realm, which is totally unpredictable.

Hebrews 11:1 (NLT) defines faith as “the confidence that what we hoped for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see…” I think one reason faith is a problem for me is that I have absolutely no control over it. In other words, it’s totally out of my hands. Here are some examples from my life. In 2009, the ultimate outcome of my cancer was something I had no control of the Almighty had total control of whether I lived (or died).

The result of the kind of person my adult daughter eventually becomes is the Heavenly Father’s responsibility. How does giving tithe make the other ninety percent stretch much further than it rationally should (Malachi 3:10)?  It’s got to be a God thing.

Faith is like any muscle in the human body. In order for it to become stronger, it needs to be used repeatedly. True faith requires an individual to listen carefully for God’s voice (in your heart), and then obey it. As you see God’s faithfulness in the events of your daily life, your fear and doubts become fewer. Believe that God is always on time. He never shows up early.

God has an assignment for you. Is your faith strong enough to trust His unconventional means in reaching whatever His purpose is for your life? Your life may go through various seasons (changes). Just remember the Almighty is always the same (Hebrews 13:8).

Bible reading, prayer, and church attendance are important components in Christian growth. Associating with honest friends that will both correct and encourage you in your spiritual walk are paramount (Proverbs 17:17).

Believing (or having faith) in God’s mysterious ways can change you into the best version of you that is possible.  Resolve to take the time to observe all the ways throughout the year that God blesses the small amount of faith you possess to do unbelievable things (Matthew 17:20).

God is in no way scared by your questions (of pain and belief). He welcomes them. His goal is to have His faithfulness become a constant unseen reality in your world.

Be True to You

My wife (and the women of our church, Eastside Community) were on their annual ladies retreat to be refreshed, renewed, and encouraged both spiritually, emotionally, and physically to be there best in all the many roles they perform in their lives.

I had decided to spend a guy’s night with my good church friend, “Manning.” We tended to have similar interests in movie viewing, and had done this in the past. (Both of our wives were at the church retreat.)

I really had no desire to spend an evening by myself at home without my wife, who has definitely become my better half in every way possible. (After all, can a husband really experience solitary living at all with three unusual Chihuahua canines in his house?)

I knew absolutely nothing about the bizarre sounding movie beginning with the letter”r” and starring Leonardo DiCaprio (from Titanic) that Manning wanted to see.*

I decided to be a team player, and experience something different on Friday evening at 7pm at the theater in the StoneRidge complex in Gahanna.

In the darkness of the theater, my arthritic knee started throbbing painfully. (The shot from Dr. Jonesco the day prior didn’t seem to be working as well as it had in past semi-annual injections.)

 Very soon into this cinematic experience, I was lost and confused with the plot. A good percentage of the movie was in a language I’d never heard (complete with subtitles).

 I thought (but was unsure) the time period was somewhere in history There were warring Indians (and I believe) French settlers that disliked each other very much. Violence seemed to be the consistent theme throughout the movie.

I had the utter horror of viewing the bloody effects of gunfire and flaming arrow death; a man being mauled by a very large; intimidating bear (and the results of living through it); that same man being partially buried alive, the consequences of a hanging, scalping, and slaughtering of an Indian village.

From the look on my Manning’s face, the violence didn’t seem to be an issue for him. Early into this experience, my intuition told me I had made a very wrong choice. I wondered how I could exit the theater with as little emotional upset to Manning as possible.

Should I be honest and leave? Fake a bathroom run and never return? Maybe I could use the pain in my knee as an honest reason to leave.

At home, I tend enjoy viewing situational comedy shows and romantic Hallmark and Lifetime movies. I’ve never enjoyed viewing shows where people are being murdered (or hurt). I tried to calmly watch the movie for what seemed like (eternity). Turmoil, disgust, and anger were all boiling up inside me.

My breaking point (and reason to leave), was a pleading, crying young Indian woman (who’d been tied to a tree) and repeatedly violated (raped) by man, who found his actions hilarious and of no real consequence. With a wife and daughter I treasured, I couldn’t condone this type of behavior to any female.

Manning looked a little bewildered when I loudly whispered the word “offensive” as I hobbled out. Only one time before in my life can I remember asking to get a refund for a movie I disliked.

I don’t go to a lot of movies (by myself or with someone else) unless it’s something I can’t wait to get from my local library after it’s out on DVD, or it’s an adaptation of a book I’ve read and enjoyed.

I have no religious issue with going to movies (even though I was raised differently). Evening movies are rather expensive at $8.00 each in my part of the country. (The price of a movie experience can get even higher with refreshments added on.)

On my way out of Cinemark 16, I asked for another movie ticket the next day. The customer service personnel acted promptly to my request as if it was no problem. (“Did this happen on a regular basis,” I wondered.)

Upon my request, a comedy with a big name comedian was suggested the next morning. I accepted the ticket, and made my way home.

Proverbs 24:5-6 (MSG) says, “It’s better to be wise than strong…to win, you need a lot of good counsel.” I should have researched this movie further. I could have gotten advice from several good friends (who were aware of its violence) before viewing it with Manning. 

Never should I have been true to myself (what makes me Robert) by not ignoring my own convictions to make a friend happy. By not walking out of this movie earlier, I have some horrific memories of human suffering that may be with for a long time to come.

In the light of my experience, read Galatians 6:7-8. Think about this. What will be the eventual outcome for you of the visual images (and thoughts) your mind feeds on?

Just remember, garbage in produces garbage out. As always, results from actions can be of the good (or bad) variety. It’s all up to you. God knows the real truth (on everything that happens in our ever-changing world).

*NOTE: Though I will not provide the name of this movie, I will offer adequate clues to discover it on the Internet (if you are curious). 

Golden Apples

Most of us have heard the adage, “old age isn’t for sissies” (or the weak of heart. As a young man, I’m sure I ignored that wise advice. As I enter the edge of becoming a senior citizen, I’m becoming more aware that it takes a great deal of determination to sail in an alert state through the choppy waters of becoming advanced age.

Never could I have ever imagined (that in my fifties) I’d be dealing with a so many medications (for a surplus of health issues); resting with sleep apnea and my continuous positive air pressure (CPAP) machine; managing diabetes (along with my love for food); seeing with failing eyesight (that’s not improving); existing with both bi-polar and Binge Eating Disorder (see It’s B.E.D. Time, The Diagnosis); battling a bum knee (managed with a host of stuff); challenged with urology issues (which is handled with Depend Shields); and a Testosterone shot in the backend (every three weeks).

1.   Maybe you’re not aware of all the scriptures have to say about old age. Here’s a quick summary: 

2.   Senior citizens can verify God’s faithfulness (Psalms 71:18).

3.   Senior citizens can have various health conditions (Psalms 31:10).

4.   Senior citizens can have an active life (Psalms 92:14).

5.   Senior citizens can pass on the life experiences they’ve lived to future generations (Proverbs 13:22).

6.   Senior citizens are many times grandparents. They can be proud of what their children (and grandchildren) have accomplished in life (Proverbs 17:6).

7.   Senior citizens have valuable life experience (Proverbs 20:29).

8.   Senior citizens can be an example of good to those younger than them (Titus 2:6-8).

If I should live one day to the astounding age of one hundred like my feisty, healthy, and lucid maternal grandmother (see The Birthday of a Matriarch), I’m hoping that I have her life wisdom (in my advanced years) also. Proverbs 25:11 (NLT) says, “Timely advice is lovely, like golden apples in a silver basket.”

No matter your age, God needs you in His ultimate agenda to bring His lost sheep back to the security of the Good Shepherd (Matthew 18:12-13). If you have not become intimately acquainted with a Savior that cares for you beyond your own imagination, please read John 3:16 and my post, Salvation by the Book.

He stands at your heart’s door and knocks (Revelation 3:20). Listen to the urging inside of you, and give Him access to every part of you. You won’t regret it.

Wonderful Me

A guy friend of mine from my Thursday morning men’s group (that meets at Tim Horton’s) had a rather humorous phrase on his gray t-shirt. The words of this slogan were in white with one of them underlined and in sky blue. (That word began with an “a.”) The garment had been a purchase (or was it a gift) from his wife.

On the surface, “This is what awesome looks like” seems like an innocent catch phrase from an imaginative writer. Though I am all for healthy self-esteem, is it right when it’s happening through coercion from another individual? Proverbs 27:2 (NLT) advises, “Let someone else praise you, not your own mouth-a stranger, not your own lips.”

This is a reoccurring topic for me that I (and others) personally struggle with (see The Show Off, Neverending Praise, and Nauseating). What about the spouse that is constantly pointing out all the good things they do for their significant other? Do you know a co-worker that dresses (or presents their self) in a particular way just so they can point out their merits (or originality) to all those within hearing range?

You probably have a relative somewhere in your family tree that seems to be in a constant state of negativity. Whether through Facebook (or other means of electronic connection), they are constantly seeking (with their words or actions) for verbal affirmation of their worth (or correctness).

Self praise makes you unsure of whom you really are. Someone else (other than me) is needed to affirm that. In the long run, it’s exhausting to be seeking others to constantly stroke your uncertain ego.

Overuse of self praise will make you unattractive (and lonely) to others as they seek to avoid you at all costs. How much better is it to receive a genuine complement (rather than one you’ve manipulated someone for)?

This post may seem to be a bit harsh. I really do care about (whoever might be reading this). Do you wish to have lasting friendships? Why not find someone that shares a commonality with you (Proverbs 18:24)?

Be honest with yourself. Deal with those self issues that are road blocks to becoming more intimately connected to those around you. If you are still absolutely clueless as to why you have issues keeping close associations, seek out the advice of a trusted honest person (or get professional help).

If everything I’ve stated above fails you, I would highly advise you seek out God (or someone close to Him). His track record is flawless. He always brings the correct answer at the right time. Just be on the lookout for it. Let Him affirm your worth as His much-loved child (I John 3:1).

Wealthy, Blessed, (or Both)

With three bulbous-eyed, family-friendly, big-eared, yapping, big attitude dogs (Chihuahuas), life is always an adventure. Due to their body size, we have affectionately nicknamed our three canines (Rosco, Chico, and Lola) “small, medium, and large.”

With the variety we own in dog size and personality, I simply love anything Chihuahua. As a family, we own two Chihuahua figurines, a Chihuahua Christmas ornament, and a very unique Chihuahua magnetic decal that used to be affixed to our silver Outlander before it finally came to rest on the front our refrigerator.

On the magnetic decal is a white Chihuahua (wearing black-rimmed sun glasses) with a palm tree next to his right ear (as well as being reflected in his eye wear). At the bottom is the phrase, “Livin’ the good life.”

My existence thus far has always been established firmly in the struggling middle class. Though I’ve never experienced a privileged, wealthy lifestyle here on Earth, I need to say this right now. “Thank you, Lord, for your blessings on me.”

I consider myself “livin’ the good life” for the following reasons:

1.  I have friends and family that cherish me (and my quirks).

2.  I enjoy the company of pets.

3.  God has blessed me with the ability to communicate well verbally, (in writing, and through singing).

4.  I live in a nice home with furniture, food, toilets, and clean running water.

5.  I have good health and a sound mind.

6.  I am employed in a challenging job with co-workers I enjoy being with.

7.  I can worship God freely in the manner that I wish to.

8.  I am able to drive the family car, and have the freedom to get to where I need to go.

9.  I love encouraging others through blogging.

10.     My past (as well as my hobbies) gives me lots of stuff to connect to with other people.

11.     I can afford health care (and medicines) when I am ill.

Psalms 39:6 (NIV) says, “Surely everyone goes around like a mere phantom; in vain they rush about, heaping up wealth without knowing whose it will finally be.”

Chances are you’ve heard the phrase, “You can’t take it with you when you die.” If you have been given the responsibility (and challenge)of wealth, invest it wisely in people (and organizations) that can make a difference in the lives of others.

Don’t overwork yourself to the point of total exhaustion. When you are tired, it’s next to impossible to completely be with those individuals that mean the world to you.

Spread your love to friends (and family members) while they are alive and well. It’s too late to confirm your affection for someone at a funeral (or viewing) with flowers (a cherished object, or a personal note).

This action might soothe your conscience, but that person’s spirit has departed from their body. What is in that casket is the empty shell you knew on earth. (No longer can you both communicate to each other face-to-face.)

Never refrain from being generous to others with your time and resources (whether that’s ever reciprocated or not). It’s the right thing to do. Deep inside you know this, don’t you? Think now about how you are so blessed (beyond what you deserve)?

Check-In Time

Around the summer of 2014, I purchased a plaque for my adult daughter (Allena) that I placed (on a prominent wall) in her busy bedroom. (It was an employee purchase when I worked at Meijers.) The letters of this reminder are in pink and mint green with a simple white background. I hoped for a reality check from her unique father in her mind every time she viewed it. 

Though the following advice may bring a chuckle to you, “Put on your big girl panties and deal with it” could also be simply (and seriously) restated as “life is unpredictable make the best of it.” (Men, you have my permission to switch the phrase “big girl panties” for “big boy underwear.”)

God has given the large majority of people in this world the ability to know what lies in their future. Our existence can at times seem like a random mixture of happiness, sorrow, and surprises. Is this perception accurate?

A loving Heavenly Father has already planned out your future (Jeremiah 29:11). All your life experiences are not wasted in the hands of the Almighty because they are turning you into the person He wants (and needs) you to become. Be moldable, (willing) clay in His hands (Jeremiah 18:1-6).

Though the above process is not always pleasant, it is a satisfying feeling to know your life experience has guided another human being down a true path (or kept them from making a huge mistake). After all, what brings more meaning into one’s existence than giving of you to others?

The Apostle Paul’s life (after his conversion on the Damascus road, Acts 9:1-18) was filled with all kinds of horrible persecution (that was worthy of complaint).

Instead, Paul learned a life of contentment (no matter he was emotionally). God has absolutely no problem with you always striving to be your best.

If things don’t work out as you planned (as often happens), can you be okay with your reality as it currently is? Whatever needs to happen, I pray you can make a permanent check-in to an attitude of contentment.

Climbing the Ladder of Success

One of my favorite quotes (by an unknown author) was recently discovered on a friend’s Facebook page. “Some people dream of success, others make it happen.” There are so many good things that I have achieved in my life that others have only wished (and hoped) for.

I have always wished to be a published author. That has happened three times to me with the assistance of PublishAmerica (America Star Books). My books have not been New York Times best sellers (though that would have been marvelous).

I created all three of these works with an encouraging voice to them. If someone has read my books, and was blessed or made a positive life that is the best thing I could ever ask for.

In December 2014, I realized my life goal need to be encouraging others. I am so thankful the avenue of blogging on Encourage Me has provided me with the visible means to do that by discussing important topics those friends, family, and strangers should consider. The Heavenly Father knows how much writing is part of who I am. How wonderful to be able to do that as much as I need to (through Facebook).

I must believe God has a purpose for my life. I got my second chance at life when God healed me of Lymphoma with my last chemotherapy treatment in March 2010. (I know how blessed I am as others with this form of blood cancer have not been so fortunate.) I tried to have a positive attitude through the whole challenge, but ultimately the Almighty provided the success story.

I consider my immediate family a victory in my life. God always knew what I needed in a wife (though it wasn’t what I thought I wanted at the time). Bobbi has been a blessing (and an inspiration) from our courting time for thirteen weeks over the phone (long distance) to all these years later.

Life with my adult daughter, Allena (adapted from my middle name, “Allen”), has been a roller coaster of both emotional highs and lows. With the many positive attributes, Bobbi and I have instilled in her (along with God’s assistance) I have high hopes for a bright future (in whatever she desires to achieve.)

Of course, there are things in my life where I desire success, but have not worked to achieve it. What am I actively doing to have a better marriage (and a happier spouse); bringing our household debt down (with small achievable goals); or find the correct career path (that gives me a sense of the real me).

Apathy (that things will never change) keeps me shackled down many times to my worse self doubts. It keeps me from venturing out into a world of uncertainty to exhilarating possibilities. Educator, author, and orator Booker T. Washington summed up accomplishment this way: “Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.”

I always find the Bible has the most logical advice on any topic someone needs advice on. This topic is no exception. James 2:14-25 delves into the area of faith being useless without actions.

If you’ve read the story of Rahab (Joshua 2 ,6, Matthew 1:1 ,5) and Abraham (Genesis 15, 21: 1-7, 22:1-18, Matthew 1:1-2), you know that they both of these people experienced their own unique life crisis’s. When they were uncertain as to what God had in mind (for their ultimate success), they were still obedient (with results that were beyond their wildest imagination).

Did you know that God wants you to do the best you can in achieving a successful conclusion? The results of your labor must be left in a loving Heavenly Father’s hands.

He needs to be the one to decide the ultimate outcome that is best for you. He wants you to love the wonderful creation that you are (Philippians 4:11). Does it frighten you to give up control for something that could turn out to be something amazing far beyond what could ever be hoped for?

The Difference Maker

In first-century Jewish culture, females were often viewed as second-class citizens (or property) with few of the rights males possessed. Jesus crossed the above barriers. He made women an integral part of His ministry in reaching out to a world that needed Him desperately (then and now).

The Gospels provide many examples where Jesus compassionately interacted with women. Here are just a few:

1.   Jesus interacts with a Samaritan woman at a well. (John 4:1-26)

2.   Jesus raises a widow’s son from the dead. (Luke 7:11-17)

3.   Jesus’ feet are anointed by an immoral woman. (Luke 7:36-50)

4.   Jesus pardons an adulterous woman. (John 81-11)

5.   Jesus has a group of women travel with Him. (Luke 8:1-3)

6.   Jesus and His disciples visit sisters, Mary and Martha, for a meal. (Luke 10:38-42)

7.   Jesus heals a crippled woman. (Luke 13:10-17)

8.   Jesus heals the daughter of a Gentile woman. (Mark 7:24-30)

9.   Jesus is followed by weeping women on His way to the cross. (Luke 23:27-31)

10.         Jesus’ mother (and other women) gathers at the cross. (John 19:25-27)

11.         Jesus appears to Mary of Magdala. (Mark 16:9-11)

12.         Jesus appears to other women after His resurrection. (Matthew 28:8-10)

Whoever coined the term of the female being “the weaker sex” obviously had spent much time around women. As a man, many of the women I know have dealt gracefully with far more challenging events than I have experienced.

What life lessons can you learn from the females you know? Put them to practice as soon as possible. (My wife is right more times than she’s wrong. That secret is just between the two of us.)

Jesus’ ministry has always found the unique voice of women, which is needed to communicate its message of hope to those that need it most (whether that’s a man or a woman). If you are a female reading this post, take a moment to realize just how valuable you are to the Almighty.

If you are a man, take a moment to comprehend the value women add to your life. Take some time to make that known in whatever way is convenient to you. What we all does matter to God (in the light of eternity).

*Adapted from the article, “Jesus and Women” from The Life Application Bible, New International Version edition.

Stay Tuned for a Word (from Our Sponsor)

The Discipleship Training Service (DTS) portion of my daughter, Allena’s, experience with Youth with a Mission (YWAM) Akron is now completed. The YWAM itinerary will include a variety of destinations all over the United States. Members will be transported by train, plane, or automobile. (The overseas trip to the original mission’s location of Haiti was halted due to safety concerns.)

Our daughter’s walk with God has grown in surprising and wonderful ways. (Character-wise, she is not the same female that left Gahanna, OH, in September of 2015.)

If you have ever had someone deliver you a message from God, it confuses your brain. Altogether, you might feel thankful (the Almighty cares), nervous (what will He ask of me), and encouraged in your faith (I needed this).

With my adult daughter’s permission, I would like to paraphrase a note she received (in Akron) from someone who cared about her (on pink, wide-ruled, notebook paper). “Careen” had a divine communication for Allena (and maybe us all) straight from the mouth of God.

Everyone worship’s God in their own unique way. The whole process of thankfulness involves the choice of being free to do it (Psalms 100). You need to be unchained from the obstacles that are negatively impacting your ability to worship your Heavenly Father.

Even when you don’t feel like walking by faith, do it anyway. Those people who love you the most will push you in the right direction. It’s safe for you to listen and do what the Spirit is telling you to do. Stop trying so hard to be perfect. It’s exhausting and impossible.

Child of God (Sister), anything Satan has intended to destroy in you: God has straightened out those crooked places in your life (Luke 3:5-6).  Experience the freedom of the eyes of the Lord being watching you. God doesn’t judge you (or look down upon you) so stop doing it to yourself.

God longs to know you intimately. He desires to know what’s happening in your life. He never goes to sleep (Psalms 121:3). You are unique, and God will work miracles through you. Open yourself up to revelations from God, abundant joy, and His provisions for your life.

Break the spirit of the Enemy. 

Renew your mind and experience the power of God, which is greater than anything the Devil has in His bag of tricks. Deep inside you, God wants 2016 to be a year of singing, joy, and celebration for you. The earth is the Lord’s (Psalms 24:1).

God has called you to both teach and preach. The Lord will be blessed, and you will laugh with joy as you disciple others for Him. The power of darkness will be broken in your life as you do what God commands you to. Be blessed, and sing a new song (Psalms 33:3) in your heart to God. The call of God is upon you.

I’ve added your name in Isaiah 62:1 (MSG) for Zion and Jerusalem.”Regarding Allena, I can’t keep my mouth shut, regarding Allena; I can’t hold my tongue…” Don’t you agree it could sense this way for you?

With absolute certainty I know you are hearing God’s voice daily. It is not a product of an overactive imagination. (This is normal and okay.) God wants to lead you. Allow Him to take your heart captive (Psalms 119:73-80, Ephesians 1:3-12).

For nineteen interesting years, Allena has been on loan to Bobbi and me from a loving Heavenly Father (just as all children are). In no way, have Bobbi and I always gotten things right as imperfect human parents. (My fathering skills have been a detriment more often to my daughter than a help.)

 One thing I do know to be true (in my heart) is that God is picking up where our limited parenting has concluded. What He will make up of the unique woman (and His daughter) has become is a mystery I anxiously await to see in the future.

To God, there is great value in everyone (and no lost causes). Our timetable (and His) may not always match. What I can guarantee is that God always gets it right the first time. Trust Him completely no matter how impatient you might get with His way. It’s always what is needed (at the right time it is needed).

Allena's parked car  in Gahanna, OH

Allena at pro-life ralley in Washington, DC

Little Is Much

The snow was lightly falling at around 11:00am on Wednesday (January 20, 2016) at the Easton Market Staples where I was employed as a Cashier. “Melissa” (a sixty-something African-American female patron in a bright orange coat and matching hat) was the only person in line for the next few minutes.

As I finished up Melissa’s purchase, (for some reason) I mentioned my wife was having a colonoscopy the next day. This opened up Melissa to mention her hip surgery the following week.

She was a bit apprehensive about the six week recuperation period required as well as the in-home physical therapy, but she needed relief soon from the constant pain she was in constantly.

Her left hip had the required amount of cartilage needed between the bones. The right hip was another story. Bone was rubbing on bone thus causing all the discomfort. Luckily Melissa’s church would provide meals and overnight stays if that is needed.

There was at least once when I worked at Meijer’s (as a Greeter) that I felt the need to do this (see A Pain in the Back).  Old habits die hard. Melissa gave me the okay to pray for her. We quickly closed our eyes as I quietly implored the Heavenly Father to give her a quick and painless recovery (if that was possible) that would bring her back to who she was before her hip started causing problems. Melissa left my counter with a smile on her face and one of my encouragement blog business cards.

James 5:16 (MSG) says, “The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with.” Only you know where your relationship with God lies. As for prayer, you may not quite be at the level of boldness I’m at to pray with a complete stranger. What you can do is silently pray in your head for a person once they leave your presence.

God cares more about the true intentions of your heart rather than what the outside shows (I Samuel 16:7). When you come to God in prayer, you’ll never get a busy signal. He is available whenever you need Him (night or day).

As I’ve said many times before (in other posts), He is waiting right now to make an personal connection (or reconnection) with you. Don’t keep Him waiting.

Not My Finest Hour

Outside, it was a frigid January afternoon in central Ohio. Inside Staples business had been rather brisk. A jovial “Peyton” came to my register with many items that totaled up to quite a bit of money. Peyton handed me several coupons that he hoped would bring down the bottom line. One by one the cash register gave an explanation as to why the many coupons were not valid.

Peyton angrily questioned every coupon rejection as I firmly stated that none of them would work with this transaction. (My manager wanted me to be firm on this situation.) I asked Peyton if he wanted any of these items. He gave me a big “no,” and made sure as he left that everyone knew that this Staples would never again get his business.

As Peyton stomped out, I did my best to loudly explain how I couldn’t override the register. (I had no desire to make any exceptions in giving him what he wanted.) Once Peyton was outside my irritated thoughts came out in a loud whisper (or my own version of self talk).

Many of the customers waiting to be served empathized with my frustration. They had heard (and maybe agreed with) the angry profanity version of “bottom break” that had come out of my mouth. (It shouldn’t take much thought to come up with what I actually said.)

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all honestly admit that we’d never made a mistake (or done anything inappropriate)? James 3:2 (MSG) says, “We get it wrong nearly every time we open our mouths. If you could find someone whose speech was perfectly true, you’d have a perfect person, in perfect control of life.”

The important thing is to allow yourself to be human (and all that goes with that). Just as God gives you as many chances as needed to get it right, be patient with yourself (because you will make many mistakes throughout your life).

 I John 4:18 (MSG) states, “There is no room in love for fear…”        Love yourself enough to not be afraid of your imperfections. It’s what makes you the creation the Heavenly Father made for you to share with the world. You can believe that God has wonderful plans for your life (Jeremiah 29:11). Nothing in your existence (good or bad) will go to waste in His blueprint for your life

Fearsome

Every Christmas, most Christians read of this angelic message to a group of surprised shepherds in Luke 2:10 (NIV):”Do not be afraid…” Do we take that long ago communication to heart today? I had emotionally prepared (as best I could) for something at church that frightened me (to the point of tears) horribly with feelings of uncertainty.

This was the Preston’s last Sunday with their ECC family. In obedience to God’s will, they will be moving to Utah to work with Teen Challenge for Girls, which works with females ranging in ages thirteen to seventeen that are struggling with things such as drugs, prostitution (human trafficking), depression, and eating disorders.

In my heart, I knew Greg and Kelly will positively change the lives of these girls (for eternity) just as they have the congregation at ECC. Maybe I’m a little fearful of the whole intermittent pastor process because the process is completely out of my hands. I have no control over who will preach to the congregation next Sunday. Whoever it is they have a lot to live up to with Kelly Preston.

What could you use an extra dose of courage for in your life right now? Possibly your health is bad. Your children are rebellious. Your marriage is hanging by a thread. Work doesn’t fulfill you emotionally like it used to.

You’re in excessive debt due to all sorts of unforeseen circumstances. Natural disasters and crime are happening all around you, or you are (in some way) venturing out into the great unknown for the first time. (It’s really scary.) Through all of this, your faith is running on fumes. You’ve began to question if God really cares about what’s going on in your life.

Believe it or not, the Almighty cares about every detail of your ordinary life. God wants you to thrive and not just survive. Are you the one that is swimming boldly (throughout life’s issues) or treading water (barely keeping your head above the waves)?

Whatever your fears are put them on the shoulders of Someone that has the ability to resolve them (Psalms 34:4). Your constant source of Courage is available to you whenever you need Him most (Isaiah 41:10).

The chorus to Amanda Cook’s You Make Me Brave seems to sum up everything I want to leave you with. (Good music always gets to the heart of the matter. Doesn’t it?)

You make me brave

You make me brave

You call me out beyond the shore into the waves

You make me brave

You make me brave

No fear can hinder now the promises you made

You make me brave

You make me brave

No fear can hinder now the love that made a way.

He’s calling you now in the midst of your doubts. Obey His voice by reaching out to Him now. He wants you to trust Him through everything.

*Adapted from the sermon “Prayer & Worship: Take Courage,” by Pastor Kelly Preston, January 17, 2016, Eastside Community Church, Gahanna, OH

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The Keys: Ten Things That Make Prayer Effective

1.   You are praying by asking, seeking, and knocking. (Matthew 7:7-8, 11)

2.   You are praying in faith. (Mark 11:24)

3.   You are praying in secret. (Matthew 6:6)

4.   You are praying according to God’s will. (I John 5:14)

5.   You are praying in Jesus’ name. (John 14:13-14).

6.   You are praying in agreement with other believers. (Matthew 18:19-20)

7.   You are praying while fasting. (Acts 14:23)

8.   You are praying from an obedient life. (I John 3:21-22)

9.   You are praying while abiding in Christ and His word.   (John 15:7)

10.                   You are praying while rejoicing in the Lord.       (Psalms 37:4)

The Locks: Ten Things That Block Prayer

1.   You are praying without knowing God through Jesus.    (John 14:6)

2.   You are praying from an unrepentant heart.               (Psalms 66:18-19)

3.   You are praying for show. (Matthew 6:5)

4.   You are praying repetitive, empty words. (Matthew 6:7-8)

5.   Your prayers have not been prayed to God. (James 4:2)

6.   You are praying with a lustful heart. (James 4:3)

7.   You are praying while mistreating your spouse.                      (I Peter 3:7)

8.   You are praying while ignoring the poor. (Proverbs 21:13)

9.   You are praying with bitterness in your heart towards someone. (Mark 11:25-26)

10.                     You are praying with a faithless heart. (James 1:6-8)

*Adapted from The Love Dare Day by Day: A Year of Devotions for Couples (2009) by Stephen and Alex Kendrick