"Loneliness is
dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t wanna
deal with people.” (Hedonist Poet)
“Social isolation kills
more people than obesity does, and it’s just as stigmatized.” (Jessica Olien)
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“7 Ways to Overcome Loneliness”
(https://www.powerofpositivity.com/7-ways-to-overcome-loneliness/)
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“Loneliness
Is Deadly” by Jessica
Olien
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“The Dangers of
Loneliness” by Hara Estroff Marano
A lack of close friends can bring about the emotional
distress known as loneliness. It begins with an awareness of relationship
deficiencies. Our cognitive awareness plays through our brain with an
upsetting emotional soundtrack. We might feel empty, isolated, distanced from
others, and deprived. These feelings tear away at our emotional well-being.
When our need for social relationships is not
met, we fall apart mentally and even physically. There are effects on both the brain and the body. It can take a serious toll
on our health by eroding our arteries, creating high blood
pressure, and even undermining learning and memory.
Despite the negative effects of loneliness, it cannot
be considered abnormal. It is a normal feeling as everyone feels lonely at times.
Long-lasting loneliness is something else entirely. It is one of the surest
markers in existence for instability.
In children, it leads to all kinds of problems.
Failure to be socially connected to peers is the real reason behind most school
dropouts. It sets in motion a course on which children spin their way to
outcast status and develop delinquency and other forms of antisocial behavior. In
adults, loneliness is a major precipitant of depression and alcoholism. And it increasingly
appears to be the cause of a range of medical problems that can take decades to
show up. Below are the statistics (the facts) on loneliness:
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Doctors provide better
medical care to patients who have supportive families and are not socially
isolated.
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Lonely individuals report
higher levels of perceived stress as non-lonely people, and even when they are
relaxing.
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The social interaction
lonely people do have are not as positive as those of other people, hence the
relationships they have do not buffer them from stress as relationships
normally do.
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Loneliness raises levels
of circulating stress hormones and blood pressure. It undermines regulation of
the circulatory system so that the heart muscle works harder and the blood
vessels are subject to damage by blood flow turbulence.
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Loneliness destroys the
quality and efficiency of sleep both physically and psychologically. These
people wake up more at night and spend less time in bed actually sleeping than do the non-lonely.
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Prolonged loneliness can increase your chances of an early death by
30%.
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The
increased mortality risk is comparable to that from smoking. And loneliness is
about twice as dangerous as obesity.
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Social
isolation impairs immune function and boosts
inflammation,
which can lead to arthritis, type II diabetes, and heart disease.
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Loneliness
has doubled: forty percent in
adults, which up from twenty percent in the 1980s.
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All
of our Internet interactions aren’t helping and may be making loneliness worse.
A study of Facebook users found that
the amount of time you spend on the social network is inversely related
to how happy you feel throughout the day.
“Social isolation kills
more people than obesity does, and it’s just as stigmatized.” (Jessica Olien)
Here
are some practical ways to overcome loneliness:
1. Are your feelings based in
reality: Not to argue that loneliness is definitely a growing reality
in our modern world, but does
a temporary feeling accurately depict your entire life? Maybe you have
a tight-knit group of friends and family, but just feel lonely in the moment.
If that’s the case, try to figure out what brought this feeling on.
Has it been a while since you
last saw your friends? Should you call your family to check in with them? Maybe
you need to do some self-reflecting and spend some time alone for a while, just
reconnecting with yourself. Sometimes our feelings don’t always mirror our
reality. Make sure to tune into these emotions whenever they arise.
2.
Focus
on others rather than yourself: Volunteering makes a great
way to both connect with other people, and also take the focus off of yourself.
Think about how many people live on the streets everyday with virtually no
source of consistent food or water, no safe place to lay their head at night,
and no real friendships to support them.
So many people suffer
much more than we could ever imagine, and we can all do something to help them.
By helping others, you will in turn help yourself, so look for local charities
or soup kitchens to volunteer your time at. This will instantly make you forget
about any loneliness you may have felt before, and reconnect you to one of the
basic foundations of human existence: helping one another.
3.
Know
yourself better: In all honesty, you must learn to enjoy your own company
before you can truly appreciate the company of others. Otherwise, you will only
want to connect with other people out of desperation in an attempt to escape
from yourself. You have to go deep within and break all the chains that bind
you so that you can finally leave behind any emotional trauma from the past.
You must learn to totally love yourself before anyone else can
offer you the same sentiment. Otherwise, you will continue to feel lonely even
in a room of thousands unless you heal your wounds from the inside out. It will
seem much easier to connect with others once you’re fully in tune with your own
self.
4.
Reach
out to others: In order to overcome loneliness, you need to feel a common
bond with others. How do you go about doing this? Well, the easiest way is to
research local meet-ups and groups that you have an interest in joining.
If you look around, you
will find that other people long to connect just as much as you do, so don’t
hesitate to reach out to them. We all have an intrinsic need to feel accepted
by others, and connecting with like-minded people could turn out to be the best
decision you’ve made for your mental and emotional health.
5.
Spend
less time on social media: We can instantly connect with
almost anyone online, but it just doesn’t compare with face-to-face human
connection. We can’t hug someone online, or see the change in their facial
expressions, or feel the energy of the person through the computer or phone.
Try to limit your technology use to a few hours a day if you can.
You will find that you have much more time to bond with your
current friends, and even make connections with new ones. If you don’t know
where to start, first think about the businesses or parks you frequent. You
likely talk to the same people at the places you go most often, so why not try
to cultivate a friendship with them?
6.
Talk to
a stranger: How many times do you notice people’s heads in their phones
when you go out in public nowadays? Maybe you have fallen into this habit as
well. Try to put away your phone for a change, and go up to someone new.
Strike up a conversation with a stranger. You have a chance to
connect with someone anywhere you go. We have a world occupied by more people
than ever before. We all don’t have much of an excuse for feeling lonely. It
just takes reaching out to someone, and not limiting ourselves to our current
reality.
“Friendship is a lot like food. We
need it to survive. What is more, we seem to have a basic drive for it.
Psychologists find that human beings have fundamental need for inclusion in
group life and for close relationships. We are truly social animals.” (Hara Estroff Marano)[i]
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